I hear the term "frenemies" a lot in magazines like Us and Star and it has always cracked me up. It's difficult for me to muster up any sort of sympathy for celebreties because they don't live in the real world as we mere mortals know it... As of lately though, it has made me think about it's actual meaning. Is a "frenemy" a friend who likes you but is just naturally catty and gossipy. You know the kind, they talk about all their other friends and share things you really didn't need to know about them and you walk away wondering what it is they say about you!! Or is a "frenemy" someone who really deep down doesn't like you but pretends that they do. Someone who can't be happy for you when things in your life are good but for some reason they drawn to you and end up creating toxicity in your life? Maybe on some level wants to like you but isn't capable because they don't even like themselves?

Speaking for myself, I love my girls! I am proud of my friends and very thankful for them. As an adult, it is hard to find people you have things in common with but when I do I feel like jumping for joy! Someone new to laugh with and share lifes experiences with, YAY!! I want to stand next to them in this journey and be able to say "Isn't this wonderful?? I am so glad you all are here with me!!" Life throws all of us curve balls that can be very painful and I have had my share. Of the many humbling experiences of my adulthood were fertility issues before we had my son. But even though I was having a hard time personally and it was painful to see other people having babies, I was still happy for them even if I was sad for myself. I don't want anyone I care about to be in unhappy or have a terrible life! So whatever the definiton of "Frenemy" is.. I don't want one!!